another one about this topic? yep ... because is the problem solved? nope
heard the most ridiculous "mansplaining" ever today... a dude has a whole channel dedicated to trying to prove "feminists" wrong...
and one woman, who I don't even know if she was a feminist, was saying she was taught how to not get raped, and how boys should also be taught you know, not to do it, and if you know anything about rape culture, doing this like "preventative from the woman's side of things" too much leads to people thinking (and I'm guessing a lot of people reading this might also) that if a woman doesn't kick and scream and fight back at all, that it's okay...
1) no
2) NO!
3) nope
we need to start teaching men what rape is, most don't know and I'm not kidding... most think (and maybe you do too), that it's mostly a stranger in an alleyway in the dark, and most of the prevention measures are geared toward that thinking, which doesn't help if you are alone with a good looking male friend that you trust and you think if someone tried anything on you, he'd help... but he ends up being the one to do it, which is a large percent of rapes, way more than the "stereotypical type" that most people picture...
let's talk about "victim blaming"
if someone is beating you, do you think it's fair to say that if you didn't make it 100% clear that you didn't want the crap kicked out of you, that you had it coming, maybe because you wore a hat of a football team they didn't like... your fault! I mean, you were asking for it, cowboys fans (lol jk)
someone comes up and starts beating you, is it your fault? seriously? I'm asking... because you didn't take self defense classes, you didn't have weapon, you wore that hat...
this is what is caused towards women when we teach them prevention methods, that if they didn't or for some reason couldn't do anything to try and prevent it, if she didn't fight for some reason (drunk, passed out, scared into shock, or he had a weapon) that it's her fault or if she dresses inappropriately that it's her fault... listen, I know some girls dress like that for attention....ATTENTION is NOT rape... for one, and I could go on and on about this, but nothing on this planet that a girl does makes it physically impossible for a man to control himself, that is not medically accurate and if it were the case, all strip clubs would go out of business because of rioting and men rushing the stage... don't say men can't control themselves when thousands go to strip clubs and control themselves just fine when they know there are giant bouncers enforcing the "no touch" rule and they know they will get caught, if they can control themselves there, they can do it anywhere else, saying they can't is ignorant or a flat out lie, and if any man does have some rare medical problem like that, he needs to be in a mental institution or have a special needs worker with him 24/7...
so anyway this guy is trying to say that because parents teach them safety lessons about not getting raped, that it is the same as telling a kid to look both ways before crossing the highway.... ummm...
there are so many levels of wrong with this, I'm not sure where to start... but I'll try
1) you are comparing your own gender to a dangerous highway, and saying that women walking around on the same planet as men, is the same as a child walking out into a busy street... do you see how this doesn't help your case in the least?
2) probably almost all the people who hit someone with their car does it by accident... I've never heard of a rapist (that was telling the truth) say it was an accident... like: "oops, I raped you, are you okay? do you want my insurance info?"
3) rapists do it on purpose, they are not a machine without a conscience
4) it is just not that same, it's not... too many people compare rape to things that just happen sometimes... it is not like walking across the street and getting hit, it isn't like dropping a $20 and someone taking it, it is not like stealing even... which is weird that anyone that is robbed is pitied and not blamed for having anything to steal in the first place... on that subject, people compare these preventative measures to locking your doors or having a security system to not get robbed... nope, nope women are not houses that is so ridiculous... but even if we use that metaphor... like is it legal to break in someone's house, just because it's not made of cast iron all around and it has windows? if you have windows is it because you want to get robbed? does that make it your fault?
why do you even live in a house? why don't you at least try not to have nice things to avoid this? see? it's a stupid argument and no matter what is said about it, people will look for excuse to blame women for getting raped... don't ask me why because I honestly don't understand it...
and anytime this happens or something like it, everyone is like #notallmen umm? no one wanted to come to your pity party, this isn't about you... if you get that defensive about yourself just because a violent act was done by one of your gender... I have to wonder what it is you feel guilty about... no one is going to knock on your door and blame you for something that another man did 4 states away... did you rape someone? if not, then just support the actual victim or keep your mouth shut... anyone that says that... we weren't wondering if you specifically have done this also... but your gender starting this hashtag does make us suspicious tbh... no one was thinking "all men are like this" unless they are mentally disturbed or they have ptsd from a man doing something to them
if you think enough rapists get the right consequences, go google Cee lo Green, see if he is in jail for raping a woman... (spoiler alert: he isn't) he didn't even get charged... he slipped her a drug without her knowledge, and then said she consented... she woke up with no memory of the night before... he poisoned her with a drug she did NOT know she was taking and then he raped her!!! but nah, not guilty??? like how? how? did a human being think that he should not be in trouble, I would say explain that to me, but no excuse is good, he DRUGGED her, on purpose, on purpose secretly... he knew she didn't know he was doing it!!!! that is illegal in and of itself!!! ... then on twitter he said that if someone is asleep that it's not rape because she can't say no... she can't say no because she is ASLEEP... yep he's still successful and people forgot about it, I mean I'm all for forgiveness but people are more mad at steve harvey than most people were this guy... if you think he is right about this, please delete me because that is so messed up...
by that logic you can rape someone who speaks a different language than you because you don't know that they are saying no
also look up what is going on with kesha, it's so horrible, I'm not even going to talk about it... google it...
we need to stop relating rape to sex, it isn't sex!!
it's rape... it is more like beating or murdering someone
God created sex for people who are married,
sex is an act of love, or at least lust
rape is an act of hate, control and violence...
and one woman, who I don't even know if she was a feminist, was saying she was taught how to not get raped, and how boys should also be taught you know, not to do it, and if you know anything about rape culture, doing this like "preventative from the woman's side of things" too much leads to people thinking (and I'm guessing a lot of people reading this might also) that if a woman doesn't kick and scream and fight back at all, that it's okay...
1) no
2) NO!
3) nope
we need to start teaching men what rape is, most don't know and I'm not kidding... most think (and maybe you do too), that it's mostly a stranger in an alleyway in the dark, and most of the prevention measures are geared toward that thinking, which doesn't help if you are alone with a good looking male friend that you trust and you think if someone tried anything on you, he'd help... but he ends up being the one to do it, which is a large percent of rapes, way more than the "stereotypical type" that most people picture...
let's talk about "victim blaming"
if someone is beating you, do you think it's fair to say that if you didn't make it 100% clear that you didn't want the crap kicked out of you, that you had it coming, maybe because you wore a hat of a football team they didn't like... your fault! I mean, you were asking for it, cowboys fans (lol jk)
someone comes up and starts beating you, is it your fault? seriously? I'm asking... because you didn't take self defense classes, you didn't have weapon, you wore that hat...
this is what is caused towards women when we teach them prevention methods, that if they didn't or for some reason couldn't do anything to try and prevent it, if she didn't fight for some reason (drunk, passed out, scared into shock, or he had a weapon) that it's her fault or if she dresses inappropriately that it's her fault... listen, I know some girls dress like that for attention....ATTENTION is NOT rape... for one, and I could go on and on about this, but nothing on this planet that a girl does makes it physically impossible for a man to control himself, that is not medically accurate and if it were the case, all strip clubs would go out of business because of rioting and men rushing the stage... don't say men can't control themselves when thousands go to strip clubs and control themselves just fine when they know there are giant bouncers enforcing the "no touch" rule and they know they will get caught, if they can control themselves there, they can do it anywhere else, saying they can't is ignorant or a flat out lie, and if any man does have some rare medical problem like that, he needs to be in a mental institution or have a special needs worker with him 24/7...
so anyway this guy is trying to say that because parents teach them safety lessons about not getting raped, that it is the same as telling a kid to look both ways before crossing the highway.... ummm...
there are so many levels of wrong with this, I'm not sure where to start... but I'll try
1) you are comparing your own gender to a dangerous highway, and saying that women walking around on the same planet as men, is the same as a child walking out into a busy street... do you see how this doesn't help your case in the least?
2) probably almost all the people who hit someone with their car does it by accident... I've never heard of a rapist (that was telling the truth) say it was an accident... like: "oops, I raped you, are you okay? do you want my insurance info?"
3) rapists do it on purpose, they are not a machine without a conscience
4) it is just not that same, it's not... too many people compare rape to things that just happen sometimes... it is not like walking across the street and getting hit, it isn't like dropping a $20 and someone taking it, it is not like stealing even... which is weird that anyone that is robbed is pitied and not blamed for having anything to steal in the first place... on that subject, people compare these preventative measures to locking your doors or having a security system to not get robbed... nope, nope women are not houses that is so ridiculous... but even if we use that metaphor... like is it legal to break in someone's house, just because it's not made of cast iron all around and it has windows? if you have windows is it because you want to get robbed? does that make it your fault?
why do you even live in a house? why don't you at least try not to have nice things to avoid this? see? it's a stupid argument and no matter what is said about it, people will look for excuse to blame women for getting raped... don't ask me why because I honestly don't understand it...
and anytime this happens or something like it, everyone is like #notallmen umm? no one wanted to come to your pity party, this isn't about you... if you get that defensive about yourself just because a violent act was done by one of your gender... I have to wonder what it is you feel guilty about... no one is going to knock on your door and blame you for something that another man did 4 states away... did you rape someone? if not, then just support the actual victim or keep your mouth shut... anyone that says that... we weren't wondering if you specifically have done this also... but your gender starting this hashtag does make us suspicious tbh... no one was thinking "all men are like this" unless they are mentally disturbed or they have ptsd from a man doing something to them
if you think enough rapists get the right consequences, go google Cee lo Green, see if he is in jail for raping a woman... (spoiler alert: he isn't) he didn't even get charged... he slipped her a drug without her knowledge, and then said she consented... she woke up with no memory of the night before... he poisoned her with a drug she did NOT know she was taking and then he raped her!!! but nah, not guilty??? like how? how? did a human being think that he should not be in trouble, I would say explain that to me, but no excuse is good, he DRUGGED her, on purpose, on purpose secretly... he knew she didn't know he was doing it!!!! that is illegal in and of itself!!! ... then on twitter he said that if someone is asleep that it's not rape because she can't say no... she can't say no because she is ASLEEP... yep he's still successful and people forgot about it, I mean I'm all for forgiveness but people are more mad at steve harvey than most people were this guy... if you think he is right about this, please delete me because that is so messed up...
by that logic you can rape someone who speaks a different language than you because you don't know that they are saying no
also look up what is going on with kesha, it's so horrible, I'm not even going to talk about it... google it...
we need to stop relating rape to sex, it isn't sex!!
it's rape... it is more like beating or murdering someone
God created sex for people who are married,
sex is an act of love, or at least lust
rape is an act of hate, control and violence...
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